1567-1622, Roman Catholic Bishop, Writer
A quarrel between friends, when made up, adds a new tie to friendship.
St. Francis De Sales – [Quarrels]
Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly.
St. Francis De Sales – [Individuality]
Do not wish to be anything except what you are.
St. Francis De Sales – [Self-love]
Friendships begun in this world will be taken up again, never to be broken off.
St. Francis De Sales – [Friends and Friendship]
Have patience with all things, but chiefly have patience with yourself. Do not lose courage in considering your own imperfections, but instantly set about remedying them — every day begin the task anew –
St. Francis De Sales – [Patience]
If the heart wanders or is distracted, bring it back to the point quite gently and replace it tenderly in its Master's presence. And even if you did nothing during the whole of your hour but bring your heart back and place it again in Our Lord's presence, though it went away every time you brought it back, your hour would be very well employed.
St. Francis De Sales – [Heart]
It is the mark of a mean, vulgar and ignoble spirit to dwell on the thought of food before meal times or worse to dwell on it afterwards, to discuss it and wallow in the remembered pleasures of every mouthful. Those whose minds dwell before dinner on the spit, and after on the dishes, are fit only to be scullions.
St. Francis De Sales – [Food and Eating]
Make friends with the angels, who though invisible are always with you. Often invoke them, constantly praise them, and make good use of their help and assistance in all your temporal and spiritual affairs.
St. Francis De Sales – [Angels]
Marital intercourse is certainly holy, lawful and praiseworthy in itself and profitable to society, yet in certain circumstances it can prove dangerous, as when through excess the soul is made sick with venial sin, or through the violation and perversion of its primary end, killed by mortal sin; such perversion, detestable in proportion to its departure from the true order, being always mortal sin, for it is never lawful to exclude the primary end of marriage which is the procreation of children.
St. Francis De Sales – [Sex]
The elephant, not only the largest but the most intelligent of animals, provides us with an excellent example. It is faithful and tenderly loving to the female of its choice, mating only every third year and then for no more than five days, and so secretly as never to be seen, until, on the sixth day, it appears and goes at once to wash its whole body in the river, unwilling to return to the herd until thus purified. Such good and modest habits are an example to husband and wife.
St. Francis De Sales – [Animals]
There are no galley-slaves in the royal vessel of divine love — every man works his oar voluntarily!
St. Francis De Sales – [Free Will]
There was never an angry man that thought his anger unjust.
St. Francis De Sales – [Anger]
Those who love to be feared fear to be loved, and they themselves are more afraid than anyone, for whereas other men fear only them, they fear everyone.
St. Francis De Sales – [Fear]
While I am busy with little things, I am not required to do greater things.
St. Francis De Sales – [Detail]
You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving.
St. Francis De Sales – [Action]